Love

The power of love is a wonderful thing. But what is love? How do we describe it ? We can’t touch it, we can’t hold it, we can’t even physically give it to someone as a gift, yet it has the power to bring grown men to their knees, it has the power to make or break us dependant on different circumstances.

We love our pets, our friends, lovers , and life partners and even our children and family members , yet each of these relationships are uniquely different in how we feel that love. Some of us find saying I Love You so easy yet for others it is so painfully difficult because we attach such deep emotion to it.

So does that mean that love is an emotion? Some say that love is not an emotion its a feeling , but surely all emotions are feelings. For me personally love is a mirror image of what is portrayed by another.

Dictionary.com describes love as a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. A feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend. Sexual passion or desire.

Is love then an act? An act of affection, when we need to show another how much they mean to us we portray all of that emotion and feeling into a beautiful moment and when we can no longer hide form our own truth we simply must show that other person all that we are filled with from within our very soul .

That may explain love for another in a passionate intimate relationship, but it does not wholly explain how then we can explain love for our friends which is also thought of as love . We have a love for material things too , is this not love ? My love for my new car although intense does not compare to the love I have for my children and my family yet I feel passionately about my car and how good I feel when I’m driving it .

Are we wrong to use the word love so easily ? Or in another view is it wrong to not use it so freely when we meet another human being that we feel passionately about even if they are not yet aligned to our feelings ? Why do we feel so guarded about telling a new partner that we love them? Is it fear that perhaps they don’t feel the same and that we may have overwhelmed them and that potentially they may move on because we came on too strong? Why should we hide our own true feelings surely if the other person doesn’t share our intimate feelings then we would be better to know this now rather than wait for months only to find the same outcome, wouldn’t that in itself just be a waste of our time ?

Love is not only reserved for those dearest and nearest to us, as I began this post , if love is truly a mirror image of what another portrays onto us then surely self love should be so much easier for us to accept. When was the last time you looked in the mirror and from the bottom of your heart acknowledged the incredible human being staring back and said “ I Love You”?

I’m pretty sure that none of us do that on a regular basis , and why ? I would suggest because our minds have been programmed by others that to be in love with ourselves is conceited, and that its wrong and self centred. We don’t tell ourselves “ I Love You” because we are so busy picking ourselves apart, replicating all of the faults that others around us have been telling us for years.

We see a wrinkle and its another reason to make ourselves fall into the abyss of ageing instead of embracing how exceptionally lucky we are to have reached this time of life when so many have not been this privileged, there’s a stretch mark we hadn’t noticed before, we are blaming child birth on ruining our body shape, do you imagine how many women would die just to be able to carry a child of their own? There are many features about us that someone else has pointed out are wrong or not to their pleasing however what I think we miss is the fact that there are over 7 billion people in this world and only one You , embrace your differences, accept your uniqueness and attract people into your live that love you for you, stop searching for flawless and start becoming flawesome.

If you need validation that self love should be embraced, that it is not conceited, it is important, and a necessity in life, it is written in the bible- Mark 12:31 The second is this : ‘Love your neighbour as yourself.” There is no commandment greater than this. Love begins with ourselves, if we can not show love to ourselves how can we possibly hope to love another human being no matter if it is family, friend, or life partner?

Xx Lei

LOVE IS NOT ABOUT HOW MUCH YOU SAY “ I LOVE YOU,” BUT HOW MUCH YOU CAN PROVE IT’S TRUE. - Love Quotes Pinterest