Faith in human nature

When we lose faith in people we trust it can be very difficult to deal with, especially when those people are work colleagues or people we spend a lot of time with.

It can be very difficult not to take their actions personally. I have always had a strong belief that we should treat people as we would like to be treated ourselves.

However it is a difficult lesson to learn that employees are employees and not your friend. They work for you not with you, they only care for their own agenda and as soon as it doesn't suit them your kindness and fair treatment of them is forgotten.

How do we learn to focus on treating them fairly even when they are not fair ? what motivation do we have that feeds our soul and enables us to push past their need for financial gain?

No matter how hard we try there is always going to be that boundary between Employer and Employee, we must learn that we can not be both friend and Employer. We can be civil to one another, we can be friendly, kind and courteous but we can never be friends. We can not socialise together and we can not take for granted the invisible line drawn between Employer and Employee.

For me, I feel very overwhelmed and disappointed that my gentle nature, my understanding heart and my empathetic soul has taken a tumble today.

I Personally do not want to believe that it is human nature to be used, abused and mistreated by people we have chosen as part of our team.

I refuse to see only the bad in everyone, i choose to see something good in everyone even if I have to look more closely to find it.

However, I also refuse to let others take advantage of me and perhaps my lesson today is to build another layer to my shell so that it is more difficult to cut through my heart so easily.

With that said though, I guess it is unfair to treat all as if they are demons, I still have my rose tinted glasses on, I prefer to give the benefit of the doubt to all that I come into contact with, innocent until proven guilty not guilty until proven innocent.

Is that a flaw in my personality? Am I still too forgiving? For today I can not answer that other than to say that I believe people make mistakes and sometimes their circumstances push them to make choices and decisions that one day in the future they may live to regret.

This is their right and their choice to make. For me, I have my own choices and decisions to make and I refuse to let the actions and behaviours of others cloud the person that I am.

I refuse to accept their attitudes and negative behaviour as the status quo. Only I can determine my actions, my thoughts and my views and god willing perhaps my generous personality, my love of life and my inner light can be a guide for others to follow.

PEOPLE WHO SHINE FROM WITHIN DON'T NEED THE SPOTLIGHT - UNKNOWN