How are you ?

It seems like a simple question , don’t you think ?

However “I’m fine.” Is not a valid answer in this case.

We really only have two emotions - happy or sad, however we give a lot of different words to express these emotions dependent on the situation we find ourselves .

Angry , in love, mad, joy, furious,ecstatic. The list goes on and on.

We all crave happiness and joy in our lives but mostly we think that we need someone else to bring it to us , we use excuses to hide behind ,

I’ll be happy when I meet Mr / Ms right .

I’ll be happy when my kids are adults.

I’ll be happy when I get my dream job.

I’ll be happy when I get that promotion.

I’ll be happy when I have a place of my own.

The truth is that happiness comes from within. No thing or no one makes you happy , how they interact with you can expand your happiness but it is ultimately yourself that brings happiness to your life .

To find happiness and feel fulfilled in life we first must understand how we are feeling right now in this present moment , so once again I ask the question “ how are you?”

Take a few minutes , breathe and close your eyes if necessary and think of how you are feeling right now . What emotion comes to mind ?

Anger, joy, disappointment, gratitude, fear, pressure ? How would you describe it ?

Once we feel whatever the emotion of the here and now may be , then we can work on how we reverse engineer this feeling and our pathway to happiness .

What ever the emotion is that your feeling , I’d like you to write it down anywhere that you have a spare piece of paper and ask yourself why .

What caused this particular emotion ? When you answer this I want you to continue asking why 6 more times to each response by the end of the 7 why’s you should be clearer as to what is your pathway to happiness . This exercise works for a number of situations , from business to relationships .

It’s the foundation to your pathway of why to any situation , I promise you it is not only an eye opening exercise it will take you on an emotional ride , because what you originally think is the reason for your unhappiness , or the reason for starting your new venture by the end of this exercise it will be completely different .

Enjoy discovering your why .

Xx Lei

When you find your why, you find a way to make it happen. - Eric Thomas