In Search Of Happiness

Stop looking for happiness where you lost it .

As I read those words, I thought that's a strange quote, but then I read it again, and again and then a few more times and then suddenly I got goosebumps.

Now I get it. We are always fighting to find happiness, ask anyone what they want and I guarantee 9/10 people will say happiness. Does that mean we are all miserable human beings ? no of course not.

However it does mean that most of us look to others to bring us happiness, if it is not another person it is something materialistic. How long before we understand that happiness comes from within.

As women in midlife, especially if we married young we think that marriage = eternal happiness. For some unknown reason we skipped the part that said marriage is 100%/100% for both sides, we skipped the part that said sometimes things don't work out, we skipped the part that said marriage is hard work and if both sides don't follow that rule no matter how hard we try it just might not be enough.

Stop looking for happiness where you lost it. If your happiness faded in a relationship, any relationship, personal, family, work, socially no matter what, sometimes we have to be brave enough to admit that this was a lesson learned, time to move on to a new lesson.

So often we continue doing the same thing we have done for years. Perhaps we are apologising for things we never did, or are we being angry for the same reasons that we have been for years. We can not do the same thing over and over and expect a different result.

It is time to change the routine, even just one tiny step. We need to divert our focus onto what we want and stop steering towards what we don't want. We don't want unhappiness, so what makes you unhappy? Why are you focusing on it ? What steps today could you take to change those habits? Once we begin to be aware of the reasons why we are unhappy then we can focus on our own happiness.

What is that one thing in your life that gives you the most joy and satisfaction? Great, now you know what it is, why does it give you that joy? How does it make you feel doing it? What could you do today that would enable you to do more of that? Just change one thing today that gives you the time to focus on your joy, then repeat every day.

Happiness is within us all . No one else can give you this, nor can they take it from you without your permission, it is yours, however we need to choose our people carefully because our people can add or detract from it. That phrase comes to mind " be careful what you wish for."

I wish for happiness every day, and I strive to give that to myself because I'm worth it, you are too.

xxLei

STOP LOOKING FOR HAPPINESS WHERE YOU LOST IT.