Know your everybody

Have you ever had that everybody moment?

You know the one, everybody thinks I'm fat. Everybody hates me. Everybody says I can't do ... Everybody says I shouldn't. Everybody laughs at me.

Who is everybody and why is their word so important ?

Do you know your everybody? Take a few minutes just to consider who is your everybody. We all have a different concept of everybody, it could be peers, family, colleagues or even people we don't actually know, however we still hold them in very high esteem.

We need to change this, this is why "our people" become so important, because our people neutralise the toxins of "everybody." Our people are those special individuals that remind us how special we are. They are the individuals that become our family , our inspiration, the shoulder we need when we are low, the hand to pull us up when we can't see a way forward , the ones who cry with us when we are sad and make us laugh so much our tummy hurts . They are our people.

We must focus more on our people and all the positivity that they bring to our lives.

We like to think that we don't need anyone else. We can do this alone. We close ourselves off to the outside world because a small number of individuals have made it their life's goal to make us feel worthless and insignificant.

If you look at those people, our everybody. Who are they? If they are like mine, they are people who achieved less than me, they are people with less opportunities than I have had. They are people who were jealous that they didn't do more with their own lives. If this is true for all of us why do we give so much focus to their opinions?

Today I challenge you to give more focus to your people than to your everybody. Make a vision board, put photos of your inspirational friends, family members, and mentors, keep it somewhere that you can see it regularly, this board will remind you that focus on the positive neutralises the toxic negativity of your everybody.

Identify the people in your life that do not serve your purpose. I am not advocating divorce or never talking to your family ever again, but I would certainly recommend choosing time to be with them that enriches your life.

Time is precious, use your time wisely. Give it or share it with those that appreciate you, with those that make you smile, and make your heart sing. Every moment should be a cherished moment that you call a memory, not a moment that takes you a whole day to recuperate from because it was so damn draining.

Be the woman who fixes another woman's crown without telling the world it was crooked.

xx Lei