Misconceptions of Lingerie

I can't be the first woman to have a passion for pretty lingerie, nor can I be the first woman who does not openly admit to the closet full of every colour and style of lingerie that has taken my fancy over the years. This indulgence is not some kind of seedy erotic fetish. This is an act of self empowerment. This is an act of femininity and of embracing all the reasons why we should all love being women.

How we dress, our choices, style and particular vision of what we wear is so much more than just the latest fashion. We do not only chose our wardrobe based on the latest fashion trend or designers ideas, it is about how certain clothes make us feel when we put them on.

Our emotions determine how we dress. Venue, occasion and location have very little to do with our choices, of course they have a small part to play, but in general it is our psychology that is the role player in this. How we dress gives us confidence, makes us feel sexy or empowered. The colours that we choose also plays a role with our emotions of the day.

With this in mind our lingerie choices are the same; however somehow it appears to be a taboo subject. How can something so pretty and delicate cause such drama? Children cover their eyes walking past mannequins displaying the seasons newest styles, men won't even make eye contact inside a lingerie store , yet it is the one gift that most women love to receive.

When purchasing lingerie for ourselves, it is assumed that it is for the pleasure of the gentlemen in our lives - why is that? Are we not enough? D o none of us value ourselves highly enough to realise we are worth such pretty items simply to make ourselves feel good?

Lingerie is not a gift for him it is for us. Lingerie is that piece of clothing that says "I am worth it". Lingerie is powerful. Lingerie says " Icare about me and how I feel because that's important ."

When we wear delicate pieces of lingerie we feel feminine. We feel special and hell yes we feel sexy, but that is for us it is not a requirement for our partners.

Lingerie is not a requirement for erotic moments or only for size 0 models. It is not reserved for special occasions or for moments of seduction. Wearing beautiful lingerie is not an act of ego, it is not to make us feel that we are on show for others; and it is not age specific or even size specific. Lingerie should not make us feel uncomfortable. It is however an expression of self love, intimacy, femininity and pleasure.

As women in our midlife we seem to make ourselves believe that lingerie was for our younger selves and as our bodies change so does our wardrobe. We hide behind items of clothing that we would never have worn ten years ago, simply because we let ourselves believe that it is inappropriate to wear certain things.

We look at our daughters through the lense of " when I was your age." Sometimes we forget that we too can look how we choose to. We can wear what we like and refuse to permit the world to judge us based on our exterior appearance. The only judgement that is valid is the judgement we place on ourselves. Why are we still telling ourselves that we are too old for the things we love?

Life is a luxury not afforded to us all. We should embrace the valuable time we have. Feel youthful regardless of our birthdays. Make memories, feel sexy, feel loved, smile and embrace every moment as though it were our first, have date days with ourselves and be proud of all that we are and all that we are yet to become. We are beautiful women, time to embrace it with all the passion we can muster,and time to believe it .

xx Lei

CLASSY IS WHEN A WOMAN HAS EVERYTHING TO FLAUNT BUT CHOOSES NOT TO SHOW IT -Audrey Hepburn