Perfection

Perfection - the state of being complete and correct in every way.

For me the word "Perfection" should be removed from the dictionary. It is that one invisible quality that we chase endlessly and just when we think we have caught up with it, it moves or at least we believe it has.

Perfection is impossible to achieve because it does not exist. Perfection is what we imagine it to be. My perfect is not yours and yours certainly is not mine.

We are very unique individuals, thankfully we have all been given different tastes, different looks, different perspectives, different desires and different opinions for a reason.

We are our own perfection. Perfectly ourselves. If we were all identical the world would be a very monotonous place and we would all be attracted to the same people, places and ideas.

Isn't it high time that we embraced our imperfections? isn't it time that we got back to normality and were grateful for the ability to age, for the grey hair and the fine lines that do nothing but note a life well lived?

How will our children know that we are their elders if we look as young as they do, not naturally but because we have modified our bodies and our faces to fit in with the latest fashion.

We become Grand parents for a reason, grand meaning previous generation. We have been using this term for centuries and we know who our elders are based on their time in our family. We cherish them and look up to them, they have lived through great challenges and we learn from their adventures as they re tell the stories of the lives they have led, but how can we continue to do this if they look like our older siblings and we treat them as such?

We look for perfection not only in our appearance but in how we dress, how our home looks, on our work, our activities even how our children behave in public.

How do we retract from this overwhelming feeling of constant judgement? How do we avoid criticism and displeasure from others? How do we stop that feeling of never being enough and constantly struggling to be the picture of perfection that is expected by our peers and family?

The answer is simple- judgement is simply an act of forming an opinion. It is up to us to decided if we accept that opinion. We can not change the opinion of others any more than they can change our opinion of them. It is up to us to decide on who's opinion matters to us, and why we accept that.

The most important opinion that should matter most is our own. We must learn to accept ourselves for the perfection that we are, we must learn to accept that we are enough. Can we improve ourselves? Of course we can, we can always strive to be 1% better than we were yesterday. We do not need to compare ourselves to anyone else though.

Falling in love with ourselves is the greatest gift we can afford ourselves. Not in a conceited way but in a true depth of understanding, learning who we are, discovering our our own depth, only then can we judge who we can allow into our lives, who can appreciate us and who we allow to love us as we deserve.

xx Lei

SOMEONE WILL ALWAYS BE PRETTIER, SOMEONE WILL ALWAYS BE SMARTER, SOMEONE WILL ALWAYS BE YOUNGER, BUT THEY WILL NEVER BE YOU. - Freddie Mercury