Redefining Living - A life worth living- Life on my terms

What exactly is re defining living? For me it is accepting my life on my own terms. Setting free the life that has been all that I have known and creating the life I dreamed I would have. Not the million dollar lifestyle of a celebrity, although I am not opposed to that if it should cross my path, just kidding that is not me at this stage in life, but a life that I feel is my "enough".

From where I sit right now, life was always about school, Job , work, retire, wait for death if I'm lucky. React to whatever life puts in my pathway, yet more recently I came to realize that the life I have had has been an accumulation of decisions and choices I made in my past. Some may have been encouraged by others, in fact the truth be known most of them were. Some I was less than happy about but got on with the hand I had been dealt because that was an easier path than resistance. I accepted that those around me knew better than I, right ? Parents, family , partner, friends, they all wanted the best for me, they were guiding me, right ? How could that be wrong? Perhaps it wasn't wrong, what if it was right at that moment in time? Life happens for us not to us #TonyRobbins

I do not live with regrets, I live with the knowledge that I had lessons to learn. That many people in my life taught me valuable lessons, others taught me what I no longer accept as part of my life. Not only were they lessons they were stepping stones to get to the place I needed to be.

Each step brought brought me to where I am today. Without these lessons perhaps I would still be following their dreams and not my own. Without their lessons perhaps some of those people would still be directing me down the path that was not right for me. Without the lessons I would not have met the incredible people who I call my friends today. The friends who encourage me, who raise me up when I am down and kick my ass when I am falling into the abyss of self doubt and low self esteem.

Without these valuable lessons I would not have realized that redefining what I considered the meaning of my life would be the greatest lesson I could ever learn. No book can teach this , no course has been written. This is life experience. Realizing what life means to me. taking time to re-evaluate what I accept for myself.

There is no longer space for unnecessary purchases because I must have the next coolest thing. No space for yo yo diets because I do not fit in with the acceptable size zero. No funky hair colors or crazy hairstyles just because some celebrity or other has set yet another trend. No millionaire jet set friends just because the outside world suggests that is what success looks like. No botox, fillers or cosmetic surgery in an effort to remain youthful even as I edge towards mid life and the silver surfer episode of life. I'm not following the beat of a life of expectation and criticizing myself when these unrealistic goals are not met.

Redefining living is a time of acceptance. Feeling grateful for the special human being I am. Admiring the woman I am becoming. I do not fit any mold because I am my own mold. Uniquely me. You can not be me anymore than I can be you. I accept you for the beautiful person that you are. Those who can accept me, who can love and acknowledge that I am enough are special to me. They are my people, my friends , my circle.

I am redefining what is acceptable to me without boundaries. My journey is far from over. Everyday a new task is put in place to help me achieve the life I believe I deserve. My choices and decisions are now different. I am choosing my future. I am planning it simply by making better choices, new decisions and embracing a life of choice, a life without limitations. A life that is meant for me. My choices may not suit you, but that's ok because I am not you. My decisions may not impress you, that too is fine because they are my decisions and I know where they lead me.

However if any of this has made you think. Has held your attention perhaps we have a connection. feel free to reach out perhaps we are our people.

xx Lei

“If you want to change the direction of your life, change the declaration of your lips.”

— Steven Furtick