Self Doubt / Self Sabotage

How to overcome self doubt/ self sabotage when those nearest and dearest don't support your dream.

Have you ever found yourself in the situation when you think you've created your dream? you've kept it secret from the world while you explored and created this masterpiece.

You spent hours, weeks, months and maybe even years, learning new skills, honing your talents away from prying eyes in an effort to avoid judgement and anyone who just might have had negative thoughts on this process or your dream.

Building your self confidence and belief in yourself has been a struggle, self sabotage and negative thoughts filled your head but you pushed through and fought those feelings of just maybe this might not work, your self belief carried you to heights you never thought achievable.

Suddenly you can just about see the finish line, the sunlight through the dark clouds of disbelief are shining through, every day your struggle was worth it because you know now that your dream is achievable. You've worked hard and the results are beginning to show.

So what do you do?

You begin peeling back the layers, the walls you built to protect yourself from those who do not support you, family, friends, peers, you let a little closer to your dream. You begin to tell them little bits of what you have been creating. Hoping that they will be the final encouragement you need to get you across the finish line, the final push that will secure your self confidence and push your dream into reality. Your pride and joy into a tangible business and potentially a stepping stone to your new career, a career not just a job, a passion, a love, the beautiful fairy tale that you created from start to finish.

Instead of all of this, what did you get?

BOOM!! the bubble burst, but there is no confetti or glitter, it's a hailstorm of needles, the bubble still burst but their rain of negativity is injected directly to your heart, they disbelieve in your dream, they know 101 reasons why your idea won't work, they criticize your every effort, they single handedly destroy your self confidence and in the blink of an eye self doubt, self sabotage haunts your waking moments, you now begin to question if you have wasted all this time, "if my family think this is a bad idea then it must be, right ?"

NO, wrong. This is your dream, your desire and your energy. No one gets to take that from you except you. If you hadn't believed in your dream you would not have begun this journey.

This adventure is a marathon not a sprint, it will have many curves and deviations but the result will be the same. Your dream is what you believe, what you desire and what you work on to achieve the life you want. Those who criticize and don't support you have not been on your journey. They can be part of your life but not part of the journey.

You will gain many new friends and non-blood family members who will encourage, support and inspire you to gain your full potential along the way. You may lose long term friends and family members along this journey. I don't think we can look at this as discouraging, more of life and a new pathway to the person you were always destined to be.

Remember: If the plan doesn't work - change the plan but never the goal.

xx Lei